A dominatrix is a woman who takes the dominant role in a bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism (BDSM) relationship with a willing partner (sometimes referred to as a submissive or ‘slave’). This relationship is very intimate and needs to have a strong foundation of trust and communication for it to be mutually satisfying for both parties.

There are two ways of acting out this fantasy, one is by simply dressing up like a dominatrix for fun, and the other is actually being the dominant role to your submissive. Read on for tips about both types of BDSM shows!

How to LOOK like a Dominatrix

To get into this role you need to have fun with it: turn on some dark sexy music, add lots of makeup, big hair, and tight well-fitting black clothes. The more time you spend getting into this character the more confident and sexy you will become and that is what really sells this look. This fantasy is about sexy, dominant, dark fetishism and more often than not is what your fans will be looking for.

For the Femme Fatale you will need:

• Cat suit or full body fishnet
• Corset
• Black boots or heels
• Stockings and garter belt
• Sexy black dress
• Gloves
• Whip or riding crop

How to ACT like a Dominatrix

Being a true dominatrix can be very satisfying, but it demands a bit more commitment on your part. You should make sure you enjoy this role before you dive in – but once you start to develop this relationship with your fans they are extremely loyal and very eager to please.

How it’s done:

• Be Confident. How can you dominate someone else if you can’t assert yourself? Focus on the fact that YOU are in charge.

• Have a plan. There is a big role-playing component to being a dominatrix so thinking ahead and being creative will help you a lot. It will also make it more fun for you to slip into different dominating characters and easier for you to stay in this dominating role.

• Listen closely. As a dominatrix your job is to make your client feel safe so they can be sexually vulnerable to you; you explore their boundaries…then push them. You hold all the power so make sure you respect your client’s hard boundaries and there is mutual consent. A safe word or hand signal will stop things from going to far.

• Hold yourself correctly. Remember; you hold all the power; maintain good posture and carry yourself upright at all times. This lets people know subconsciously that you are in charge. 

• In the end it’s all about you. Being a dominatrix is very empowering; it’s the pleasure you get from dominating that will give you the self-confidence, self-awareness, and ability to control the conversation. A confident woman is so irresistible to a man because it brings out his animalistic lust, it will make him feel that her sexy appearance and attitude is all about him. As a dominatrix, it’s the other way around – make it clear that it is all about you and your pleasures and amusements. You would wear that outfit if he was there or not….you are wearing it for you bb.

~That’s all for this lesson!

Happy Camming!
Love, Your Coaching Team!